Is Friendliness Really Friendship, or Just a Social Contract?

Let’s be real: most people who smile at you aren’t your friends. They’re just polite. That’s it. No secret bond. No loyalty. Just people playing nice because society tells them to.

You think someone’s your friend because they reply with “haha fr bro”? Because they hug you when they see you? Because they show up to the same party? Please. That’s surface-level nonsense.

Friendliness Is Transactional

Most people are friendly because it benefits them. It’s strategy, not sincerity. They want to look good, keep peace, avoid awkwardness. It’s not about you—it’s about them.

You vent once, they “feel bad.” You vent twice? You're “too much.” Third time? They vanish. Because they weren’t built for your chaos—they were built for your convenience.

Friendship Is Messy. And Rare.

Real friends? They sit with your silence. They don’t disappear when things stop being fun. They check in when they don’t have to. And they’re honest with you even when it’s uncomfortable.

If you have even one of those—hold on tight. Everyone else? Background noise.

Stop Getting It Twisted

Friendliness is not love. It’s not loyalty. It’s not friendship.

It’s a smile with no substance.

And if you confuse the two, you’ll always feel betrayed. Not because people hurt you—but because you expected too much from people who never signed up for that role in your life.